Therapeutic True Rest

  True Rest is enlightened selfishness. It is that activity which renews us and enables us to have a realistic view of where our talents lie, the energy to use them and the strength to handle disappointment. Without true rest our perception of our self, and of others, is always wrong. True rest is any […] Read More

Gestalt Two Chair Work

  Gestalt therapy – a brief introduction Gestalt therapy refers to a form of psychotherapy that derives from the gestalt school of thought. It was developed in the late 1940s by Fritz Perls and is guided by the relational theory principle that every individual is a whole (mind, body and soul), and that they are […] Read More

Restructuring in Structural Family Therapy

  A family therapist is an active participant in bringing about change within a family, engaging therapeutically in concerns and issues that are causing distress. This will be effective and valued from a structural family therapy viewpoint, if s/he can disrupt or ‘shake up’ family patterns and behaviour leading to a restructuring over time. ‘Restructuring’ […] Read More

Children and The Pendulum

  Children are at risk of growing up with a heightened sense of anxiety or potentially an addiction to excitement if they live in a whirlwind of highs and lows. We can teach The Pendulum and the importance of True Rest to children directly. We can guide our own children or the children we teach […] Read More

Codependency and Referrals in the Counselling Process

  Codependency can also be a form of Attraction to Hurt. A codependent person is someone who has let another person’s behaviour affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling them. Whilst focusing on the person they are Codependent with, they may look to that person for the answer as to what kind […] Read More

Boundaries and Relationships in working towards change

  Building boundaries as an adult can be frustrating and painful because we are learning what we should have learnt when we were children. When we start to say no I can’t do that for you, I need to take care of myself, I’m angry with you, I find that remark offensive, we will see […] Read More

Feelings of Accomplishment and Purpose in client work

  Contribution Training offers us the ability to turn that which is negative into something positive. The open sharing of hurt can contribute to the other person who can then contribute back to us because they enable us to achieve the ‘Feelings of Accomplishment’ and purpose that we get from making the contribution. Feelings of […] Read More

Addiction and The Pendulum in the Counselling Process

  Another form of Attraction to Hurt is addiction. Rather than look at the original feelings of abandonment from childhood, we can fall into filling the void or the “hole” with alcohol food or drugs, anything rather than feel the painful feelings of abandonment and loneliness. “By being in your mind and constantly thinking about […] Read More

Contribution from Hurt and Attraction to Hurt in the Counselling process

  “Deep down underneath it all, where it really counts, you are ok.” (A Guide to Humanistic Psychology-p.6) What a powerful and reassuring statement. If we can really take this on board, what a great bonus already on our journey of personal development in the counselling process. When we go through tough times and remember […] Read More

The Humanistic Approach to Counselling and Attraction to Hurt

  Emphasis within the Humanistic Approach to counselling is on personal and professional change and development. We know that some people seem to be further along than perhaps we are and others less so. We should not be put off by this. The aim is to keep on our own path of self fulfilment and […] Read More